Forgiveness Like the Earth

According to the line of Yajurved 35/21 — that woman is worthy of running the house who has forgiveness like the earth’s and is able to remove the faults of others.

Message: A woman receives respects in the family based on her worthiness. The more worth she has, the more respectable she will become. If she is capable in all the household duties, then she will be dear to all and respected by all. Her duty is to create atmospheres of bustling joy in the family and honor the elders and the deities. The deities become pleased with yagya (oblations in the holy-fire) and other worship and all the elders too are pleased when looked upon with faith. Just as the father is kind and dutiful towards his sons, in the same way the woman also should keep all members happy by her good dealings and by looking after their comforts. Closeness, cooperation and goodwill increase with loving behavior towards all and the lady-of-the-house gets the strength to tackle successfully the family problems.

It is the wife’s prime duty not to think of any harm to her husband nor act in a way which harms her husband’s interest. She should sustain him throughout life. Her conduct towards all the family members should love. She should not bear malice, enmity or get angry without reason with anyone. The best virtue of woman is forgiveness and she must have large-hearted forgiveness like the earths. She must have the capacity to forgive a person, despite his/her ill-feelings towards her, and then making that person her own by loving behavior. This does not mean that the wife should forgive the wickedness and faults of everyone in the family and allow them to go ahead on the wicked path. On the contrary she also has the responsibility to exercise strict control over all and firmly crush the wicked tendencies and faults before they increase. If sometimes there is a difference of opinion between the husband and the wife, then keeping in view the larger interests of the family and keeping aside their differences, they should continue to be engaged in crating a stronger family. The husband and wife are the two wheels of the chariot of married life. With harmony and mutual respect increases.

The wife also must have spirituality, faith and devotion to God. With devoted worship of God, moral simplicity, mental strength and will power increases and because of them there is development and progress in life. Her brightness, which depends on the strength of her character, increases with worship. Pure character makes a man a ‘devata’ (deity) and makes woman ‘sati’ (pristine pure like ‘satya’ or truth), ‘saadhvi’ (devoted like a nun) and ‘devi’ (a deity in female form). With that her reputation in the family increases. If along with the strength of character, there is also the strength of knowledge, it makes the woman ‘poojya’ (one whom we worship) and ‘shraddheya’ (one in whom one puts faith) and she becomes venerable by all.

Such a woman, full of the strength of character, knowledge and faithfulness to her husband takes everyone ahead on the good path of good intelligence, good thinking and good qualities; achieving the goal of life.

Only a virtuous and skilful woman is the décor of the house.