Householder should fulfill their duty

Meaning: According to the line of Yajurved 19/39 – every good householder must fulfill his duty to make his sons and daughters learned, graceful and strong in character through brahmacharya, good conduct and education.

Message: Man receives the education for good culture in the school that is home. The gems of the society also graduate from this school. The individual and the society are two wheels of a chariot whose axle is the institution of home. If this fact can be understood, then just like the need for making a man capable and the society completely clean, the necessity of making the families also cultured will be understood. Every member of such a cultured family gets heavenly bliss and the vital wealth of progress in the small nest of home.

After the birth of the child, the responsibility for his proper upbringing, food and clothing, education etc also rests on the householder. Not only that, but it is also the duty of the elders to build the character of the children. If this is not properly carried out, then children become the victims of many bad tendencies and they become a curse for themselves, their families and the society. It is also their duty to save them from bad tendencies and to inculcate good habits in them. It is true that children are born with certain hereditary habits and culture, but their development or destruction depends mostly on the prevailing circumstances. The main basis of the children’s mental development is the mental condition of the parents and the family atmosphere. It is also a mysterious fact that the child starts learning as an embryo in the womb and by the age of his 5^th year, completes almost three-fourth of the work of forming his mental attitude. During this period, the child is extremely sensitive. Knowledge, wisdom, practical conduct etc, he learns afterwards, but the age during which his nature and character are formed and his culture and faith develop is up to the fifth year.

That is why the grabhadhan sanskar is the first of the 16 sacraments during a person’s life in the vedic-culture. And, description has been made in the Vedas about the requirements of the husband and wife before pregnancy is achieved. The husband and the wife must remove their faults and bad tendencies and refine their conduct, dealings and speech. In the formation of the child, the father’s seed (sperm) and the mother’s soil (the womb) both have equal importance. The foundation of capable children starts from here. Here the example of the great ancient warrior Abhimanys is well known.

Giving birth to children is not a subject of individual entertainment. The birth and formation of a new personality is a great responsibility. If we forget this duty, then we will be creating the demons who themselves remain unhappy, make their families unhappy and increase wicked activities, and thus by our own sins, we will be creating hell for ourselves as well as for all others.

You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation –plato

A gentleman can swear and still be a gentleman if he does it in a nice, benevolent and affectionate way – Mark Twain